Some couples come to understand, despite working on their relationships, that it’s just not going to work out. They may have spent considerable time trying to resolve their differences, but soon learn that the solutions they have created only provide temporary relief. The same inherent problems they have lead to thesame arguments, which can be very frustrating for everyone involved.
It can take a long time for one of the spouses to build up enough courage to finally file for divorce. But once one of them moves forward, the entire situation will change. Now, instead of arguing over trivial day-to-day matters, the couple will be arguing about much more important issues, such as the determination of child custody or the division of the marital property.
This can make it much more challenging for them to find an agreement to these issues. In some situations, one of the spouses may simply give up. These individuals want to have the marriage over as soon as possible, and they’ll make agreements that disadvantage them before they understand the significance of these decisions. Once they realize how they’ve limited themselves, they may come to regret not taking the time to work toward a better resolution.
Couples also need to pay special attention to what will happen after the divorce has been completed. Each spouse will generally need to establish his or her own residence, and the not-immediately-apparent costs associated with those. Planning a divorce needs to include an awareness of those future expenses, in order for them to be potentially addressed during the property division or support part of the proceedings.
Many of the mistakes that divorcing couples are easily preventable by taking advantage of the time before the divorce. Putting the right plans in place can help alleviate a lot of stress, and help people transition after the divorce is complete.
If you’re thinking about getting a divorce, it makes sense for you to speak to an experienced family law attorney to create a plan that is specific to your current situation. This ensures that you will be prepared for the challenges that can often arise during the divorce process.
At the Law Office of Lisa Vance, we can meet with you privately and confidentially to start you toward the best resolutions to your custody and property division concerns. We can ascertain what you want and need from the divorce-because sometimes, there’s a difference-and can also talk about what your spouse might be looking for.
Knowing those wants and needs at the outset can help remove some of the emotions that frequently result in time-consuming and frustrating arguments between spouses. If you opt for an alternative dispute resolution process to settle your divorce, like mediation or collaboration, knowing your wants and needs can even help speed and streamline those negotiations.
Challenges arise in divorce for many couples, but an experienced family lawyer-like the ones at the Law Office of Lisa Vance-can help you navigate those challenges and get to a settlement. Once you have been able to officially finalize your divorce, with the challenges of the divorce behind you, you will be in a much better position to begin your new life.