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As the situation with COVID-19 continues to develop and evolve, the safety, health and well-being of our clients and our team is extremely important to us. We are watching for the guidance of the Centers for Disease Control and international medical experts to learn how we can best manage our facility and our clients.

We would like to reassure you that The Law Office of Lisa A. Vance, P.C. will continue to be available to provide services to all of our clients.

Our lawyers and paralegals are working in the office and electronically, although most of us are working from home. Below is a list of FAQs regarding our response and commitment to you during COVID-19.

Can I even have a consultation with my lawyer remotely?

Yes, The Office of Lisa A. Vance, P.C. has a comprehensive remote working capability and all of our lawyers and paralegals are equipped to work securely from home.

Will my lawyer be available to answer questions and work on my case?

Yes, your legal matters will continue to receive our attention. You can email, call, or videoconference with your lawyer during this time.

We also have multiple videoconferencing options; please contact your attorney for the platform that works best for you

How are court hearings and appointments affected?

Court in Bexar County are now conducted by Zoom Please see our blog article Court via Zoom: It’s Actually, Really Court (and Here’s How It Works)

Can I consult with a lawyer about a new family law or divorce matter?

Yes, we have office staff working in house and remotely to ensure continuity in our business. For information about a family law or divorce matter, please call our office or complete the Request a Consultation Form.

Your family law matters remain our top concern and we are not going to permit this pandemic to take priority over your needs. We will remain confident, alert and prepared.

We wish you and your family well as we work through this difficult situation together.

With warm regards,
Lisa A Vance



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When parenting time is used for leverage or control

| May 11, 2018 | Child Custody, Children In Divorce, Decree Modification, Parental Rights |

Parents who have gone through a divorce often don’t see eye to eye on a number of issues. That’s often a contributor to why the couple got a divorce in the first place, and even though they’re still required to communicate with each other as parents of their shared children, they may not communicate productively or well. In extreme cases, they might even use one of the most important commodities they share-time with their children-to try to wrest control, get leverage, or coerce the other into some sort of action.

One common example of this involves child support. If the custodial parent is owed child support, she may reason that she shouldn’t have to hand her children off to the non-custodial parent until he pays up-even if the parenting schedule in their decree spells out that it’s his weekend. She might reason that being denied parenting time will motivate him to pay child support, and that he’ll only be “deserving” of that access once he’s caught up.

The law doesn’t work that way, though, of course. Certainly, parents who owe child support are expected to comply with those obligations, and in Texas, the Office of the Attorney General has a great number of employees tasked with enforcing those obligations. But parenting time is set up to provide children as much consistency as possible in a divorce situation, and parents who try to use withholding of parenting time to punish the other parent invariably punish the children.

A parent owed child support should notify the OAG of the situation; they’ll then initiate contact with the parent in question. They may even reach out to the parent’s employer; a number of these cases will resolve with wage garnishment set up to ensure that a parent’s child support obligations are met.

It can also be used by a parent who is seeking to negotiate some concession for the other parent-perhaps for a week during the summer coveted by both parents. The decree will typically spell out defaults pertaining to how parenting time is negotiated, and modifications to that schedule should be written out and signed by both parties, or, at the very least, on an email thread in which both parties are clearly in agreement. Parents can get into heated arguments when one determines that the other’s silence about a proposed schedule change is equal to concurrence. (Of course, a parent withholding a response to a request can be another tool used in seeking control.)

The ultimate, guiding question in all of this-as with so many questions pertaining to family time-is, “What is in the best interest of the children?” Many of these situations involve a parent experiencing raw, human emotions, who might have ample reason to be frustrated or angry with the other parent. But these situations ultimately involve two parents who aren’t getting along . . . and the children that, despite the existing conflict, love them both.

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