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As the situation with COVID-19 continues to develop and evolve, the safety, health and well-being of our clients and our team is extremely important to us. We are watching for the guidance of the Centers for Disease Control and international medical experts to learn how we can best manage our facility and our clients.

We would like to reassure you that The Law Office of Lisa A. Vance, P.C. will continue to be available to provide services to all of our clients.

Our lawyers and paralegals are working in the office and electronically, although most of us are working from home. Below is a list of FAQs regarding our response and commitment to you during COVID-19.

Can I even have a consultation with my lawyer remotely?

Yes, The Office of Lisa A. Vance, P.C. has a comprehensive remote working capability and all of our lawyers and paralegals are equipped to work securely from home.

Will my lawyer be available to answer questions and work on my case?

Yes, your legal matters will continue to receive our attention. You can email, call, or videoconference with your lawyer during this time.

We also have multiple videoconferencing options; please contact your attorney for the platform that works best for you

How are court hearings and appointments affected?

Court in Bexar County are now conducted by Zoom Please see our blog article Court via Zoom: It’s Actually, Really Court (and Here’s How It Works)

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Yes, we have office staff working in house and remotely to ensure continuity in our business. For information about a family law or divorce matter, please call our office or complete the Request a Consultation Form.

Your family law matters remain our top concern and we are not going to permit this pandemic to take priority over your needs. We will remain confident, alert and prepared.

We wish you and your family well as we work through this difficult situation together.

With warm regards,
Lisa A Vance

 

 

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Parenting Plans for Children from 7-12 Years

| Feb 8, 2019 | Parenting Plans |

This is one in a series of four articles, in a collaboration between Law Office of Lisa A. Vance founder Lisa Vance and Dr. Becky Davenport, founder of the San Antonio-based Institute of Couple and Family Enhancement, looking at parenting plans in divorce decrees from a child’s perspective.

Bexar County’s standing orders – which judges often adopt by default when hearing divorce cases – don’t adequately account for what children need from their parents at different age levels, especially after divorce. We’re addressing four different age groups in order to help parents going through divorce think about what their children need.

The good news about parenting children in this broad age group is that they’re more adaptable than children in the younger age groups, and because they’re attending school full-time, they’re also getting guidance and input from teachers and other adult figures. Of course, a parent’s role remains vital during this time in a child’s life in which a child is developing physically and emotionally.

During this span of time — starting about when a child is nine or ten — a phone conversation can be meaningful, and both a parent and a child can truly get something out of it. The relationship is internalized and understood well enough for a child to where connection can take place even though he or she is not in the same room with a parent.

A four-year-old, for instance, isn’t likely getting much of anything out of a FaceTime conversation – no matter how much a parent away from his or her child puts into the call. It’s certainly not doing neurologically for a young child what actually being with the child does. Though its well-intentioned and meaningful to the parent, it can actually be upsetting to children before they get into this more advanced age range.

Ten to twelve is also the age range in which puberty begins, especially for girls. It’s obviously a time in which it’s critical for the parent of the same gender as the child to be having good, honest, open conversations. It’s also important for parents to be communicating with one another. Children have access to more information via their phones than past generations, and may be asking questions or exploring certain boundaries earlier than you might have. It’s good to draw from your experience, but you grew up in an entirely different world than today’s kids. This is also the age when parental controls on devices with internet access is important to have consistently across households.

It’s also a time in which children can get much busier with school activities, and where the schedule that worked so well during preschool might get more difficult for both parents to manage. The decree is there for parents to fall back on when there’s disagreement about scheduling, but parents should know that they can also agree to one-time, semester-long, or even open-ended changes to the schedule without having to modify the decree, if it works better for the children and parents.

If one parent is unwilling to make changes, it is possible to go to court to seek modification, but it’s obviously a longer, more contentious and expensive process to change a schedule in court. If you’re going to try to modify the parenting plan in court, make sure you’re doing so for a good reason – and make sure it’s a plan you can live with going forward, as it’s not necessarily a process you want to undergo a second time.

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