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As the situation with COVID-19 continues to develop and evolve, the safety, health and well-being of our clients and our team is extremely important to us. We are watching for the guidance of the Centers for Disease Control and international medical experts to learn how we can best manage our facility and our clients.

We would like to reassure you that The Law Office of Lisa A. Vance, P.C. will continue to be available to provide services to all of our clients.

Our lawyers and paralegals are working in the office and electronically, although most of us are working from home. Below is a list of FAQs regarding our response and commitment to you during COVID-19.

Can I even have a consultation with my lawyer remotely?

Yes, The Office of Lisa A. Vance, P.C. has a comprehensive remote working capability and all of our lawyers and paralegals are equipped to work securely from home.

Will my lawyer be available to answer questions and work on my case?

Yes, your legal matters will continue to receive our attention. You can email, call, or videoconference with your lawyer during this time.

We also have multiple videoconferencing options; please contact your attorney for the platform that works best for you

How are court hearings and appointments affected?

Court in Bexar County are now conducted by Zoom Please see our blog article Court via Zoom: It’s Actually, Really Court (and Here’s How It Works)

Can I consult with a lawyer about a new family law or divorce matter?

Yes, we have office staff working in house and remotely to ensure continuity in our business. For information about a family law or divorce matter, please call our office or complete the Request a Consultation Form.

Your family law matters remain our top concern and we are not going to permit this pandemic to take priority over your needs. We will remain confident, alert and prepared.

We wish you and your family well as we work through this difficult situation together.

With warm regards,
Lisa A Vance

 

 

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Is there a difference in how men and women are affected by divorce?

| Mar 22, 2019 | Emotional Support And Divorce, Family Members And Divorce |

We came across a recent, fascinating article in Psych Central on the differences between men and women in divorce – particularly, in the emotional effects they experience. It serves as a good reminder that men and women do indeed have differences that need to be factored in to the divorce process.

Many of the emotional effects of a divorce are actually the same – depression, anger, jealousy, and anxiety all can impact both men and women as they deal with the reality of divorce, the frustration of the divorce process, and the uncertainty of what comes after the divorce.

The author, Rebecca Lee, also makes an important point about identity and how that can potentially change during the divorce process. She notes:

A form of identity is lost during divorce. Where one lives, what school their children may attend, and who they confide in are all subject to change. Since the “unit” of marriage often involves friendships with other couples, expressing dissatisfaction with their previous married life may feel uncomfortable. These friends may only know the divorcing couple as a married couple, making it increasingly difficult to separate an independent identity from the marriage identity. Financially, sexually, and socially, all aspects of individuality change for both men and women.

What may be most surprising, though, is that it’s men and not women who may suffer the most on average as a result of divorce. Lee quotes the Journal of Men’s Health, observing that “men are prone to deeper depressions and more likely to abuse substances after divorce. The suicide risk for an unmarried man is 39 percent higher than that of a married man. Men are also at greater risk for physical health problems such as heart attacks and stroke. Men start to mourn later in a divorce than women, thus extending the grieving process.”

They also note, importantly, “Since women are more likely to initiate divorce, men may experience denial during the initial stages of separation. When actively dealing with divorce, men are more likely to use action rather than words to express their feelings. Common actions taken by newly divorced men include working too much, having casual sexual encounters, and avoiding their new home.”

While those observations might seem bleak, they’re a good reminder that for both men and women, divorce is a two-track process. The first, which we’re the experts in, is the legal track. It’s our job as lawyers, who are advocating on your behalf, to craft a degree that gives you and your children the best post-divorce life possible. It starts with knowing what’s important to you, but if you do have children, also needs to take the co-parenting relationship into consideration.

The second track is an emotional one, which professional, licensed counselors are best positioned to help you through. In some divorces, especially collaborative ones, we’ll have a mental health professional as part of the team helping the couple and their children through the emotional peaks and valleys of a divorce. But we also encourage each person divorcing to have his or her own counselor, and to not lean on a lawyer for that kind of support.

While caring deeply and being supportive is essential to what we do at the Law Office of Lisa A. Vance, it’s best manifested in working toward getting you a decree to help you move beyond the divorce. Establishing a good working relationship with a counselor while you’re working on your divorce with us gives you someone to continue working with, for as long as you need, even long after we’ve gotten you to the divorce finish line.

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