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As the situation with COVID-19 continues to develop and evolve, the safety, health and well-being of our clients and our team is extremely important to us. We are watching for the guidance of the Centers for Disease Control and international medical experts to learn how we can best manage our facility and our clients.

We would like to reassure you that The Law Office of Lisa A. Vance, P.C. will continue to be available to provide services to all of our clients.

Our lawyers and paralegals are working in the office and electronically, although most of us are working from home. Below is a list of FAQs regarding our response and commitment to you during COVID-19.

Can I even have a consultation with my lawyer remotely?

Yes, The Office of Lisa A. Vance, P.C. has a comprehensive remote working capability and all of our lawyers and paralegals are equipped to work securely from home.

Will my lawyer be available to answer questions and work on my case?

Yes, your legal matters will continue to receive our attention. You can email, call, or videoconference with your lawyer during this time.

We also have multiple videoconferencing options; please contact your attorney for the platform that works best for you

How are court hearings and appointments affected?

Court in Bexar County are now conducted by Zoom Please see our blog article Court via Zoom: It’s Actually, Really Court (and Here’s How It Works)

Can I consult with a lawyer about a new family law or divorce matter?

Yes, we have office staff working in house and remotely to ensure continuity in our business. For information about a family law or divorce matter, please call our office or complete the Request a Consultation Form.

Your family law matters remain our top concern and we are not going to permit this pandemic to take priority over your needs. We will remain confident, alert and prepared.

We wish you and your family well as we work through this difficult situation together.

With warm regards,
Lisa A Vance

 

 

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Some Valuable Parenting Advice in the Ongoing Pandemic

| Sep 4, 2020 | Children In Divorce, Emotional Support And Divorce |

I’m sure a lot of us thought, back in March when the pandemic started, that we’d be on the other side of it by now. Obviously, it’s still very much with us, and that’s especially frustrating for parents who are helping their students through school on screens. As a law firm that likes the emphasize the family in family law, we’re particularly attuned to the stress that parents experience.

There’s a great article we ran across recently called “Coronavirus Parenting: Managing Anger and Frustration.” It addresses the stress that parents are experiencing head-on and realistically. When parents are stressed out and angry, kids feel that, and they’re not able to learn and function as well as they can when their parents are calm and centered. The article gives lots of good advice to parents who want to reduce the anger and frustration they’re feeling.

One of the most important pieces of advice it gives is to “lower your expectations.” That doesn’t mean have lower standards; it simply means don’t try to be Superman or Superwoman as a parent, worker, household manager, and teaching assistant in the new pandemic reality!

As the article notes:

You won’t be able to do as much as you usually can as a parent, employee or partner. Instead, experts recommend focusing on your and your children’s emotional state and strive to maintain positive family dynamics.

The article goes on to quote an expert who notes, “Kids can’t learn if they’re not feeling safe and loved. If there’s a strain in the connections at home, and it feels very tense and miserable, your child’s brain isn’t going to take in what they’re learning because they’re stressed and angry. Your relationship is the precursor for everything else falling into place.”

So, make sure that’s central to your focus. That’s especially true for divorced and divorcing parents. Kids can feel incredible uncertainty and stress when their families are transforming. With so much else uncertain right now, it’s important to be mindful of creating as much stability as possible. That means that even if you’re not getting along as a couple, you need to be conscious of your role as parents.

The article also advises parents to think about nutrition, activity level, and sleep during this time. It’s a challenge for many parents to maintain a good diet, enough exercise, and enough sleep in good times. It’s especially tough in the midst of stress and tumult. But those are also some of the most important tools we have to keep calm and focused when we’re stressed. Those building blocks make us function better as well as feel better.

Finally, as the article notes:

What parents are being asked to do is impossible, so you need to prioritize. Most importantly, make sure everyone is safe and their basic needs are met. Next, determine what you and your children can realistically accomplish daily, and then try to structure everyone’s days so you’re not overwhelmed. This may mean that each child eats and/or does their schoolwork at different times.

It’s true that kids respond to and thrive off a regular routine, which is why creating a workable parenting plan is essential to a good divorce decree. However, the pandemic is making routines look different. Parents who went to work at a set time each day now work from home. Kids used to school and after-school routines have had those upended. It’s up to parents to be sensitive to what their kids can or can’t do each day, and adjust accordingly.

While the pandemic won’t be with us forever, it’s providing a unique opportunity for parents to raise their kids in stressful times. It’s certainly not an opportunity we envisioned or even wanted, but lessons learned here will help parents through any future stressful times they’ll experience. Here’s to getting through it and helping our kids grow and feel loved!

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