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As the situation with COVID-19 continues to develop and evolve, the safety, health and well-being of our clients and our team is extremely important to us. We are watching for the guidance of the Centers for Disease Control and international medical experts to learn how we can best manage our facility and our clients.

We would like to reassure you that The Law Office of Lisa A. Vance, P.C. will continue to be available to provide services to all of our clients.

Our lawyers and paralegals are working in the office and electronically, although most of us are working from home. Below is a list of FAQs regarding our response and commitment to you during COVID-19.

Can I even have a consultation with my lawyer remotely?

Yes, The Office of Lisa A. Vance, P.C. has a comprehensive remote working capability and all of our lawyers and paralegals are equipped to work securely from home.

Will my lawyer be available to answer questions and work on my case?

Yes, your legal matters will continue to receive our attention. You can email, call, or videoconference with your lawyer during this time.

We also have multiple videoconferencing options; please contact your attorney for the platform that works best for you

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Court in Bexar County are now conducted by Zoom Please see our blog article Court via Zoom: It’s Actually, Really Court (and Here’s How It Works)

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Your family law matters remain our top concern and we are not going to permit this pandemic to take priority over your needs. We will remain confident, alert and prepared.

We wish you and your family well as we work through this difficult situation together.

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Lisa A Vance

 

 

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How can I stop parental alienation?

| Oct 2, 2020 | Parental Alienation |

In our last two articles, we’ve discussed what parental alienation is and how it can make its way into the courts. We’ve defined it throughout as strategies that one parent uses to distance a child from the other parent. That’s important to note, because there are counter-strategies you can use if you’re the target of parental alienation.

One of the most important things to be mindful of at the outset is though you, as a parent, might feel attacked or even victimized by parental alienation, it’s really your child who bears the brunt of it. In her article in Psychology Today, Dr. Christine B.L. Adams writes:

In any relationship, the expression “It takes two to tango” is accurate. Alienators must convince their children to participate in their desire for alienation from the other parent. Children describe the pressure they feel to accommodate to their alienators’ agendas. Alienators are the parents children most worry about crossing, upsetting, and making angry. They are also the parents that children see as most needing to have their way and who, in a role-reversal fashion, the parents see as most needing emotional support from their children.

That means it’s especially important to be patient, loving, and understanding while parental alienation is happening. Children going through parental alienation will experience guilt and emotional pressure through the actions of the alienating parent, and you certainly want to be mindful of the effects that pushing back might have.

That doesn’t mean, however, that you have to cede ground to the alienating parent if you find yourself experiencing parental alienation. Dr. Adams provides some tips for parents, which include:

  • a court order for the children to live with the targeted parent,
  • individual therapy for each child and targeted parent and family therapy for all the children and targeted parent,
    individual therapy for alienating parents,
  • slow introduction of supervised visitation between children and alienating parent as children and targeted parent discover what has happened to each of them as a result of the parental alienation, and
  • later on, introduction of therapy with alienator and children to allow children to confront the alienator’s misrepresentation of reality and psychological pressure to comply with the parent’s desires to separate them from their targeted parent.

That, of course, is not an easy thing to achieve. The alienating parent very well may be acting out of anger or fear or anxiety caused by the divorce. If the alienating parent is able to address those issues, and eventually moves away from those feelings (and blaming his or her ex for those feelings), he or she might also move away from alienating behavior.

But, of course, there’s no guarantee of that. Your situation may need a family lawyer to ensure or restore parenting time. Know that the Law Office of Lisa A. Vance is experienced in these cases and can help you resolve them accordingly. Because we’re concerned with the welfare of children, and know that parental alienation directly and adversely affects them, we know the fight can sometimes go more than one round. But we’re also prepared and ready to do that with you and for you, because we know just how important it is.

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