WE ARE WORKING!
As the situation with COVID-19 continues to develop and evolve, the safety, health and well-being of our clients and our team is extremely important to us. We are watching for the guidance of the Centers for Disease Control and international medical experts to learn how we can best manage our facility and our clients.
We would like to reassure you that The Law Office of Lisa A. Vance, P.C. will continue to be available to provide services to all of our clients.
Our lawyers and paralegals are working in the office and electronically, although most of us are working from home. Below is a list of FAQs regarding our response and commitment to you during COVID-19.
Can I even have a consultation with my lawyer remotely?
Yes, The Office of Lisa A. Vance, P.C. has a comprehensive remote working capability and all of our lawyers and paralegals are equipped to work securely from home.
Will my lawyer be available to answer questions and work on my case?
Yes, your legal matters will continue to receive our attention. You can email, call, or videoconference with your lawyer during this time.
We also have multiple videoconferencing options; please contact your attorney for the platform that works best for you
How are court hearings and appointments affected?
Court in Bexar County are now conducted by Zoom Please see our blog article Court via Zoom: It’s Actually, Really Court (and Here’s How It Works)
Can I consult with a lawyer about a new family law or divorce matter?
Yes, we have office staff working in house and remotely to ensure continuity in our business. For information about a family law or divorce matter, please call our office or complete the Request a Consultation Form.
Your family law matters remain our top concern and we are not going to permit this pandemic to take priority over your needs. We will remain confident, alert and prepared.
We wish you and your family well as we work through this difficult situation together.
With warm regards,
Lisa A Vance
Bullying: When Parenting Efforts Fail
It is your worst nightmare: your child is being bullied and the harassment is escalating. All the practical solutions (teach your child to walk away, don’t engage the bully, use the “buddy system,” etc) have failed. Your child is increasingly depressed and anxious. Therapy will help with the child’s coping of this intimidating situation but the situation itself persists. The child whom you cherish continues to defend him/her but the wounds may be deep. Your child’s focus should be on “normal” kid stuff – play, study, love and growing independence.
What to do?
Reframe this vexing situation into a positive module for life lessons. This may be your child’s first experience with injustice, but it certainly won’t be the last. There will be plenty of times when, like all of us, your child is treated unfairly – at school, at work, in relationships – and the skills you teach now will help your son/daughter through the next mistreatment.
Bullying: when parenting efforts fail to protect a child: legal recourse
First things first, stop the bullying child. Most parents would agree that it is reasonable to monitor children’s web postings. If your child is being cyber bullied, then the bully’s parents may be responsible for their failure to stop harmful posts. Offer to meet with the parents for a non-legal approach: mediate with a therapist, demand that the bully enter into therapy and have that student sign a contract to stay away from your child. Neither student will want this event known amongst their peers and the promise of quieting parental involvement may go far towards a successful outcome with the bully.
What about the school? If you have spoken to the teachers/counselors without success, head to the principal. (If you know that none of those avenues will work, bypass those and head straight to the superintendent). If the superintendent is reticent about meeting with you, just head to that office. Sit in front of the receptionist, politely, and wait. Make sure that the receptionist is aware of your unsuccessful efforts to secure an appointment & sit. Don’t bring a laptop, iPad or book. Just sit there. Human nature being what it is, you will eventually make your point and will likely secure your appointment.
Once there, give the superintendent your diary & proof of efforts to resolve the bullying at lower levels. You should have a diary, the school handbook, other instances from other parents (which means your involvement in the PTA, of course) and a list of legal & grass roots remedies available.
You can post actual facts and opinions on all social media (be careful of defamation; broad generalized opinions can be problematic). These days, posting a website is not difficult nor costly; if your goal is to encourage other parents to join you in effecting change, this is often a most efficient avenue. Research class action lawsuits against the school district for its failure to protect the children.
There is a lot to do. A lot of research, planning and action. A lawyer can help with the plan for the cost of a consultation and there is always the potential for litigation. But filing suit should be the last resort, for it is expensive and may not have the same life planning advantages of a parent working directly with a wounded child.
Use life remedies first and involve your child. A pro-active offense will always win over a “sit back and take it defense!”