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As the situation with COVID-19 continues to develop and evolve, the safety, health and well-being of our clients and our team is extremely important to us. We are watching for the guidance of the Centers for Disease Control and international medical experts to learn how we can best manage our facility and our clients.

We would like to reassure you that The Law Office of Lisa A. Vance, P.C. will continue to be available to provide services to all of our clients.

Our lawyers and paralegals are working in the office and electronically, although most of us are working from home. Below is a list of FAQs regarding our response and commitment to you during COVID-19.

Can I even have a consultation with my lawyer remotely?

Yes, The Office of Lisa A. Vance, P.C. has a comprehensive remote working capability and all of our lawyers and paralegals are equipped to work securely from home.

Will my lawyer be available to answer questions and work on my case?

Yes, your legal matters will continue to receive our attention. You can email, call, or videoconference with your lawyer during this time.

We also have multiple videoconferencing options; please contact your attorney for the platform that works best for you

How are court hearings and appointments affected?

Court in Bexar County are now conducted by Zoom Please see our blog article Court via Zoom: It’s Actually, Really Court (and Here’s How It Works)

Can I consult with a lawyer about a new family law or divorce matter?

Yes, we have office staff working in house and remotely to ensure continuity in our business. For information about a family law or divorce matter, please call our office or complete the Request a Consultation Form.

Your family law matters remain our top concern and we are not going to permit this pandemic to take priority over your needs. We will remain confident, alert and prepared.

We wish you and your family well as we work through this difficult situation together.

With warm regards,
Lisa A Vance

 

 

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Learning from Donald Trump: Maintaining Proper Decorum

| Aug 19, 2016 | Divorce |

We have certain expectations of presidential candidates during elections. Typically, the spouses, children, and other family members of opponents are off limits. We expect military veterans and their families – especially the parents of a dedicated soldier who died in service to the country – to be treated with respect. And we certainly don’t want to see even the suggestion of calling for the assassination of a political opponent.

And yet, with the Donald Trump campaign, we’ve had all of those “golden rules” violated in a matter of months. When we think of things that someone is supposed to do as a matter of general principle, of being what we sometimes call “being a decent human being,” we’re thinking of decorum.

And as much as most of us like to pride ourselves on maintaining proper decorum, it’s really hard to do that in a divorce! People going through divorce are tested emotionally and are unsure about their futures. When you initiate a divorce, you have time to adjust to the emotions a divorce brings before you break it to your spouse. But your spouse doesn’t see it coming. One minute, he or she thinks she’s in a functioning marriage; the next minute, he or she is feeling terror and anger and confusion and whatever else the intention to divorce brings. It’s hard, in those moments, to maintain civility!

But decorum’s necessary in divorce. When a petition for divorce is filed, there’s a set of standing orders that accompany it. Those standing orders lay out the decorum that couples should conduct themselves with throughout the divorce proceedings. They seem basic, and they spell out behaviors that would be inappropriate under any circumstance – and yet, the address some of the ugly, gut, emotional reactions that people at the ends of their ropes might engage in.

They also serve as a reminder that we want to be seen in a positive light, and we want to act in a way that will garner us respect, even in difficult circumstances. At the Democratic National Convention, I was particularly moved by what Michelle Obama had to say. A moving part of her speech talked about the various things being said about President Obama, and Michelle advising her daughter to rise above the level of those making such accusations.

One of the most powerful quotes from the speech was her saying, “When someone is cruel, or acts like a bully, you don’t stoop to their level — no, our motto is, when they go low, we go high.” This inclination to be better is admirable, and it’s something that each of us should strive for in every moment of our life.

In divorce especially, though, some of us are tested like we’re never tested before, and it’s important to keep decorum in mind to help hold it together. Many have been critical of Trump – and certainly, we’re adding to that here – but there’s something to be said for the intense focus that a presidential campaign brings on a candidate, and it’s understandable that someone like Trump, who’s never sought public office before, is feeling the pressure that comes with that.

For many of us, divorce is the closest we’ll come to that experience. You won’t necessarily be perfect in it. The key, ultimately, is to try and do your best, but start with the kind of civil behavior that people will expect from you. That can feel like a low bar to aspire to, but it’s sometimes harder than it seems.

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