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As the situation with COVID-19 continues to develop and evolve, the safety, health and well-being of our clients and our team is extremely important to us. We are watching for the guidance of the Centers for Disease Control and international medical experts to learn how we can best manage our facility and our clients.

We would like to reassure you that The Law Office of Lisa A. Vance, P.C. will continue to be available to provide services to all of our clients.

Our lawyers and paralegals are working in the office and electronically, although most of us are working from home. Below is a list of FAQs regarding our response and commitment to you during COVID-19.

Can I even have a consultation with my lawyer remotely?

Yes, The Office of Lisa A. Vance, P.C. has a comprehensive remote working capability and all of our lawyers and paralegals are equipped to work securely from home.

Will my lawyer be available to answer questions and work on my case?

Yes, your legal matters will continue to receive our attention. You can email, call, or videoconference with your lawyer during this time.

We also have multiple videoconferencing options; please contact your attorney for the platform that works best for you

How are court hearings and appointments affected?

Court in Bexar County are now conducted by Zoom Please see our blog article Court via Zoom: It’s Actually, Really Court (and Here’s How It Works)

Can I consult with a lawyer about a new family law or divorce matter?

Yes, we have office staff working in house and remotely to ensure continuity in our business. For information about a family law or divorce matter, please call our office or complete the Request a Consultation Form.

Your family law matters remain our top concern and we are not going to permit this pandemic to take priority over your needs. We will remain confident, alert and prepared.

We wish you and your family well as we work through this difficult situation together.

With warm regards,
Lisa A Vance



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Is a collaborative divorce better for my children?

| Sep 1, 2017 | Children In Divorce, Collaborative Divorce, Divorce |


If you’re planning to get a divorce and you have children, you should consider collaborative divorce as an option. There are many great reasons for choosing the collaborative route, starting with your need to prepare for a co-parenting relationship with your soon-to-be ex-spouse.

If you go through a traditional divorce that does not involve any children, once it is finalized and your spouse becomes your former spouse, you don’t have to ever interact with that person again, if you so choose. The traditional divorce process will be primarily focused on the division of assets and debts between the parties.


For divorcing couples with children, though, you and your former spouse will still share the responsibility of raising your children. This requires communication about all kinds of matters, from medical bills to after-school activities to summer vacation plans.


The collaborative law process can serve as a metaphor for your future dealings as co-parents, and it can set the tone for balanced discussion and effective negotiation when working through difficult issues. If parents are able to work through their issues without heavy litigation and fighting in court, they can establish a process for dealing with the parenting issues that might come their way after divorce. If parties are able to work through their uncoupling in a way that’s not divisive and damaging, co-parenting begins from a much better place. The collaborative process is one that, by its very nature, helps the parties to focus on the well-being and emotional health of their children.


Collaborative law, to be clear, isn’t just for couples who agree on everything. Couples can and do work through difficult issues that, at the outset, are the source of sharp disagreements. The main difference between a collaborative divorce and a traditional litigated divorce is that the couple negotiates their decree without taking it to court. The collaborative process helps couples to retain one of the most crucial factors that can often be lost in the divorce process: control over their future. 


In a collaborative divorce, each spouse has a lawyer representing his or her interests, but the lawyers are committed, through a binding agreement, to a process of resolving the case without going to court. In fact, if the couple decides they can’t come to agreement and seek litigation, each spouse must get a new lawyer to tackle the litigation phase of their dispute.


But collaboration doesn’t mean capitulation. I encourage each collaborative client of mine, at the outset of the case, to make a distinction between their positions and their interests. This may seem like a simple task, but it is often difficult to differentiate between a specific item that a client requests (a position) and the motivating desire or fear behind that item (interest). Knowing these motivating factors and assisting a client to articulate what may be influencing their own choices is a powerful tool. It allows us a degree of flexibility as we look for solutions, and to do so in a way that honor what both parties have expressed that they want, and champions the best interests of the children involved.


Collaborative divorce allows for this same flexibility in devising parenting plans that work best for the children and their parents. The standard plan issued in many litigated cases may work for your situation, but it might not, or it might not be ideal. Collaborative divorce allows the two of you, as co-parents, to create as ideal a situation for your children as possible.


Collaborative divorce also is better suited to the busy lives of parents. The divorce happens on your schedule, in an office, rather than in a courtroom where the court sets the time and place and tells you when to be there. It’s also a process that protects privacy and confidentiality.


And, again, the process gives you something I believe is crucial when it comes to a divorce with children: It puts the focus on their needs. It allows you to develop a workable solution going forward, first and foremost–your goal is to move as seamlessly as possible into that co-parenting role with the uncertainty of divorce behind you.


Also, if you find that a parenting plan that may have worked great at the time of the divorce has become too rigid or otherwise flawed a few years down the road, you have a co-parenting relationship, forged in the collaborative process, that allows the two of you to work out a solution better suited for your new situation. 

If collaborative divorce sounds like what you’re looking for to help you and your children through a divorce, please contact the Law Office of Lisa Vance to set up a time to meet with me. I’d love to answer your questions and talk to you about how to get started.

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