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We would like to reassure you that The Law Office of Lisa A. Vance, P.C. will continue to be available to provide services to all of our clients.

Our lawyers and paralegals are working in the office and electronically, although most of us are working from home. Below is a list of FAQs regarding our response and commitment to you during COVID-19.

Can I even have a consultation with my lawyer remotely?

Yes, The Office of Lisa A. Vance, P.C. has a comprehensive remote working capability and all of our lawyers and paralegals are equipped to work securely from home.

Will my lawyer be available to answer questions and work on my case?

Yes, your legal matters will continue to receive our attention. You can email, call, or videoconference with your lawyer during this time.

We also have multiple videoconferencing options; please contact your attorney for the platform that works best for you

How are court hearings and appointments affected?

Court in Bexar County are now conducted by Zoom Please see our blog article Court via Zoom: It’s Actually, Really Court (and Here’s How It Works)

Can I consult with a lawyer about a new family law or divorce matter?

Yes, we have office staff working in house and remotely to ensure continuity in our business. For information about a family law or divorce matter, please call our office or complete the Request a Consultation Form.

Your family law matters remain our top concern and we are not going to permit this pandemic to take priority over your needs. We will remain confident, alert and prepared.

We wish you and your family well as we work through this difficult situation together.

With warm regards,
Lisa A Vance



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What if I’m ready for a divorce and my spouse isn’t?

| Dec 22, 2017 | Divorce, Emotional Support And Divorce |

In a prior blog article, we discussed a couple of the issues that can prolong a divorce case beyond the state’s minimum 60-day window. We touched on the conflicts that can delay a divorce, which typically happen when both parties are fully engaged in either trying to work out a settlement or presenting their cases to the judge to win a favorable settlement.

But not everyone who faces the prospect of divorce wants to get divorced, and so a dynamic called “divorce readiness” can enter the picture.

Divorce readiness is exactly what it sounds like: How prepared someone is emotionally to go through with a divorce.

In some marriages, both parties are aware of the growing conflict and come to a mutual decision to proceed with a divorce. But in others, one person grows more discontented with the marriage than the other person. The person initiating divorce goes through part of the grieving process about the end of the marriage while preparing for the divorce emotionally, and then announces he or she wants a divorce to a spouse who might not even have seen it coming.

In those cases, divorce readiness can have an impact on how the divorce proceeds. It’s possible that you hire an attorney, file the divorce petition to start the clock, and prepare things on your end . . . and your spouse does nothing.

As we noted in the previous article, once a petition is filed, the respondent has an initial window of about three weeks in which to respond. While some respondents choose to fight, even filing counter petitions to contest the allegations in the original petition, some may not respond at all.

While a divorce can eventually proceed even if one of the parties doesn’t engage in the process, it certainly makes it easier if both parties are involved. The court can compel a reluctant party to provide information on assets and debts through the discovery process, and counsel for the more divorce ready person can prepare a settlement proposal the other person might find amenable.

But in cases involving different levels of divorce readiness, the person initiating the divorce may have to simply practice patience as the less-ready person adjusts to what very well may be a shifting the paradigm of the world he or she lives in. If the person initiating the divorce has caught the other person off guard, he or she may not even be able to start the initial mourning period that helps him or her get to preparing for divorce. He or she may still be in “I love you, we can make this work” mode.

In cases like this, we take the approach that the client wants us to take, but with a level of restraint that will help the less-ready person get to the table eventually able to discuss the settlement. An overly aggressive approach in these situations create the danger of pushback, which might create more roadblocks and delays.

Of course, because it is an emotional time for each party, I highly recommend having counselors helping each person through the process. While there’s a legal process which holds to a sometimes-delayed but eventually-moving-forward schedule, the emotional process is much more individualized and much less linear.

At the Law Office of Lisa Vance, we make a point of saying that your lawyer is not your counselor-because we value the special insights that counselors can bring to the emotional well-being of our clients.

But we also want you to have the best post-divorce life possible, and when you meet with us, we can explore options to help achieve that, and guide you through the divorce option that works best for you.

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